It Does Not Have to End in a Divorce

Matthew 19:8-9

Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

1 Corinthians 7:10-11

To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

First, I want to wish you all a very happy new month, and I pray and believe that we will find God in all of our businesses and concerns this month, doing what only He can do for us in Jesus name.

Today’s gist will be on divorce, and I speak about divorce over and over again not to cast any stone on anyone, but that we might know fully well the will of God for our lives and marriages and pursue that will with every strength that we have to a glorious end. No marriage is without it’s challenges, and there is no challenge that we face that is beyond the ability of God to take away. The only problem that often arises is that we try to solve our problems ourselves and when we discover that we can’t, we run away from it. But that does solve the problem it only leaves it pending.

God does not want us to leave these issues pending; in fact He is not interested in us solving them. All He wants, is to solve them for us. And He will not just solve them for us; He will solve them through us and doing that requires our cooperation and that we can give by following His commands and instructions for us. So the only role you play in every challenge you face including your marital challenges is to know what God wants you to do and then do it. God Himself handles the rest for us.

With this said, we can understand why our marriages don’t have to lead to a divorce. Jesus said it was not that way at the beginning. That tells us that the reason why a marriage would lead to a divorce is because, either those in it do not know the instructions of God for their lives in marriage, or they have chosen not to follow God’s instructions for their lives in marriage. So Jesus was right when He said that Moses permitted divorce because the hearts of men/women were hard. So to say that it is your refusal to seek the will and instructions of God for your marriage and follow it diligently despite any obstacle that you may face is what ultimately leads to a divorce.

No matter the excuse you may have, no matter the reason that you may give for the divorce, it all balls down to you not following through with the will and instructions of God for your marriage.  So any excuse that is outside of marital infidelity is not a genuine excuse for a divorce. And the clause to permission for divorce is that you remain unmarried or be reconciled to your spouse. Anything outside of this is adultery.

If God has instructed that a man should love his wife in the same way that Christ loved the church and you are to follow this instruction diligently, you will then agree with me that even infidelity should be forgiven, because in so many ways the church has been unfaithful to Christ, yet He still loves them and forgives them over and over again.

I love the fact that God forgives our acts of ignorance and that our sins committed in the days we didn’t know the truth will be forgiven. And so if you have gone through a divorce in those days when you were unaware of God’s grace in your life I believe the Lord will overlook it and give you a clean slate and a fresh start. If as a child of God with the knowledge of the will of God and you are contemplating a divorce and have begun a divorce process, I will implore you to please halt that process and seek God. He is willing and available to turn things around for your good if you are willing to let Him.

I have read of a lot of Christians who says the Lord spoke to them to get a divorce; I will say that you must surely have heard wrong. God will not contradict His word. He is the God who honors His word more than His name. He will not tell you to get a divorce when He has declared in His word that He hates divorce. If what you have heard contradicts what you have read in the Bible, please check the source of that voice. Different voices try to gain prominence in our heads; some voice are from our emotions, some from the devil and even voices of friends and loved ones come up in our heads everything. But the voice of God will always be in alignment with the written words of God.

There are better ways by which God can handle that situation without it having to end in a divorce. It’s time to let go and let God handle it.