Another Question To Answer

It’s another beautiful morning and yet another beautiful opportunity share the truth of God’s word to bring life and health to our homes and marriages. I have hoped and looked forward to sharing my next post on marriage and money but yet I am going to put it on hold to give a response to a comment on my last blog post. I bless God for those who have taken the time to share the message of this blog and bless those who take the time to read may the Lord bless you all richly. I also appreciate the questions and comments, with the help of the Holy Spirit all questions will be dealt with through the truth of God's word and I pray that more homes will be healed to the glory of God alone.

The question asked and will be dealt with in this post is as follows:

May God bless you real good and continually increase your anointing. On a final note, when a man becomes abusive as a result of external influences (e.g. a strange woman) which you have dealt with before in one of your previous posts, and decides to throw his wife out of the house (may be so the other woman could move in), can this woman still forcibly stay put and work on her marriage from within? How about those whose husbands have thrown out due to no fault of theirs, and before you could spell OUT, another woman has moved in and started having kids... should she still wait for possible reconciliation? Discussing this with a friend; she asked a question... "What have women done wrong?"

The first thing I want you to help me communicate to your friend is that women have done nothing wrong. The magnitude of your trial is in direct proportion with the magnitude of strength and ability that God has placed in you. God will not tempt us more than we can bare, and so if you are going through it, its because God knows that you with His help and support you can pass through it victoriously and better off. We need not dwell on the challenge and magnify the trials, but rather hold on firmly to the power of God with which you can overcome all troubles. David was not consumed by the strength of Goliath, but rather faced Goliath by the power of God. There will always be issues on our journey in life and those challenges are obstacles that God has provided a way for us to overcome.

In dealing with main question, I want us to take a look at some Bible scriptures so we have a scriptural understanding of how to deal with an issue such as this. 

1 Corinthians 7:12-15

To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 

Before we cling to this scripture as the right thing to do, we should note that Paul has stated that he is the one talking in this scripture and not God talking through him. This is Paul’s solution to the matter based on his own perspective. But it is a scripture that fits well to answer the question that has been asked. For as long as you are a believer in Christ Jesus, you should not be the one initiating the separation. But if it’s your unbelieving spouse that wants to leave then you are not bound by such circumstance as Paul puts it. And for the wife, God says submit to your husband as unto the Lord, if your husband says leave, then in obedience please leave.

But the clause to all this is that you are not allowed to re-marry as long as your husband is still leaving. The fact that Paul says you can leave does not amount to the fact that you can go marry someone else. It is only death that terminates a marriage covenant by God’s standard. But before I appear as a prophet of doom, we will look at the scriptures again for a lasting solution to the problem. 

Genesis 21:8-13

The child grew and was weaned, and on the day Isaac was weaned Abraham held a great feast. But Sarah saw that the son whom Hagar the Egyptian had borne to Abraham was mocking and she said to Abraham, “Get rid of that slave woman and her son, for that slave woman’s son will never share in the inheritance with my son Isaac.”

The matter distressed Abraham greatly because it concerned her son. But God said to him. “Do not be distressed about the boy and your maidservant. Listen to whatever Sarah tells you because it is through Isaac that your offspring will be reckoned. I will make the son of the maidservant into a nation also, because he is your offspring.” 

Malachi 2:13

Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer pays attention to your offerings or accept them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth; because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. 

Like I said earlier if your husband insists that you leave, then in the spirit of obedience and submission leave. But when you leave, you are not leaving and giving up on your marriage. Your husband acting in that manner show he is obviously not acting with his senses intact; he is a man who needs help. You are hurting no doubt but you are still God’s vessel in bringing him back to whom the Lord designed him to be and whatever effort you make in his recovery you will receive joy in abundance to the glory of God. You are then leaving to fight the battle from the outside while the effect is felt in your home that has been stolen by another woman.

In order for a wife in this situation to understand her right and the support she enjoys from God, I would like us to consider the story of Sarah. True, it was Sarah who offered her maidservant to Abraham in desperation for a child, but when it was time to send the intruder packing, it was the same Sarah who did the job and the Lord backed her up. As a wife you might not be able to confront your husband physically over an intruder in your home, but you can and will send her packing by issuing the instruction on your kneels through prayers and heaven will back you up. At the beginning God said what He has joined together let no man put asunder. When you speak the word of God back to Him, He acts on it with urgency. Heaven and earth will pass away, but not a jot of the word of God will go unfulfilled.

Nobody born of a woman, no principality or power from the pit of hell has the authority to take over your home when you are not dead. When you stand your grounds and exercise your authority in Christ, then no power can overcome you. More so a woman with good manners, who submit to her husband and whose prayer life is not dead, then your husband will have no reason to consider taking another wife. Remember that Paul said an unbelieving husband has been sanctified by his believing wife. As a child of God you are a shield over your husband. When you are not prayerfully sleeping and you put up your best attitude in the home and diligently make your husband the king of your home, he will have no cause to consider another woman.

God said he has shut his ears from the prayers and rejected the sacrifice of a man who has broken faith with the wife of his youth. Note that God is not particular about just any wife, but the wife of his youth. Yes you are hurting about your husband’s action of sending you out of his live because he wants to take in another wife, but you are favored by God. The Lord Himself is fighting your course so you don’t need to hate or get bitter; you just need to continue being a child who pleases the Lord.

Have you ever considered why God did not fulfill His covenant with Abraham through Ishmael the child of his maidservant who is suppose for be his first child. Well it’s because that was not the child of promise; a covenant child must be a product of a covenant relationship. Sarah was the wife of Abraham’s youth, she was his covenant wife and God will only fulfill His covenant through a covenant relationship. God’s standard has not changed and His pattern remains the same, as it is with Sarah, so shall it be with you. You carry your husband's favor in you and so he needs you even though he does not realize it yet, so just keep praying and trusting God. No matter how far and for how long your husband has strayed away with another woman if you keep declaring the truth of God’s word that “what God has joined together let no man put asunder” on your marriage, surely your declaration will find a means to manifest and your latter days will be more glorious than the former.