Wednesday 6 January 2016

Your Marriage And Money

Hello beautiful people of God, I trust that the Lord who is always faithful is keeping you safe under His divine watch to protect you and yours and make you flourish in the land of the living. My prayer is that there will always be a timely word from God for a life that needs it on a daily basis on this blog in Jesus Name. So I am trusting God that daily there will be something tangle and relevant from God through this blog everyday of this year for a life and marriage needing it. So I plead with you to always put me in your prayers for the spirit of fervency, consistency and diligent and to always expect to hear from God daily through this blog for a word to bless your life and marriage in Jesus Name.
There are a lot of things the devil can possibly use to destabilize your marriage and one that is most often used by him is money. That element called money has been the root cause of break-ups or break-downs of many marriages. And just like the stories shared in my previous post, we can see the extent to which money has caused grievous damage in promising lives and homes. It is true that money answers all things but the fact remains that not all monies answers all things because money gotten outside of God is also the root of all evil.
In today’s blog we will look at the relationship that exists between marriage and money. How income should be generated and expended. Who should be generating the money for the running of the home and what control does each spouse have over the family income. And I trust the Lord to help us have a clear understanding of His will for our marriages when it comes to the issue of money.  


1 Timothy 5:8
If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

2 Thessalonians 3:10
Foe even when we were with you, we gave you this rule; “If a man will not work, he shall not eat.”

Proverbs 31:13-19
She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls.
She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trade trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. 


The passages above are the basis of our discussion in this post. A lot of women are with the mindset that only the husband should provide for the home and even if they get to work, their income is theirs alone and not for family use. So to say that their husbands do not have any control or say over what they earn as income. Some other category of women believe that all their needs should be provided for by their husbands. And they make their husbands look so much like a failure if he is unable to meet up with the never ending requests of the wife not to mention the children.
And just like the stories shared in my previous post, we have some men who sit and do close to nothing in form of serious work just because they are rest assured that their wives are earning good income and so they don’t need to worry. This category of men live off their wives and they are just okay that way. They depend on their wives for money and if for any reason she is unable to meet up with their never ending demands she becomes a bad wife and in some cases they get violent and beat up the favour of God for their lives (their wives).
But from what the Bible is revealing to us in the passages above, both men and women who have this mindsets are wrong. The culture or tradition they have imbibed in their homes and marriages is totally faulty and not of God. 


Jeremiah 17:5-8
This is what the Lord says:
Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who depends on flesh for his strength and whose heart turns from the Lord. He will be like a bush in the wastelands; he will not see prosperity when it comes. He will dwell in the parched places of the desert, in a salt land where no-one lives.
But blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. He will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.   

God does not desire that a husband or a wife depends solely on the other spouse for a means of livelihood or sustenance. The Lord expects that each of them will engage in work in order to generate income. It is very right that God expects a man to take care of his relatives and especially his immediate family, but God also expects that the wife will engage in work also to generate income to provide for the family.
I always marvel and the foresight of the living God; in today’s generation we hear this common saying that every family needs a multiple stream of income in order to be financially stable, yet this had been the design of God right from the time He originated marriage. There is always a time down in the life and finances of everyone that God has created and God knowing this has provided a help for the man in his wife to absorb any shock of challenge whenever necessary and that includes those times when the husband is financially down. So when the husband and wife are both generating income for the family and with God as their anchor, there won’t be a time when there will be a severe financial crisis in their home and cases of husband beating up his wife as a result of lack of money will not arise.
Again and again the Lord has opened up our hearts to the importance of submission from a wife to her husband. Ephesians 5 says a wife should submit to the husband in everything and that includes the submission of money. Although I am totally against a man bullying money out of his wife, yet the Bible says to the wife SUBMIT. When I praying wife faithfully obeys her husband and commits the situation that she is in into the hands of God then she can be sure that when a husband forces money out of his wife and does not spend same in a judicious manner, that husband is answerable to God, and the wife can be sure that there is nothing she can do to her husband that can supersede what God will do to him in vengeance for the injustice that he has done to her. But you have to obey first and let God handle the rest. 
For the man who is not taking care of his wife like he should is dancing in the possible wrath of God. If you as a man expect that your wife uses her income to take care of the needs in the home while you spend your money not providing for your family but on frivolous activities, then you are toying with God's anger. 1 Peter 3:7 says "that your prayers may not be hindered."  
I have been blessed by the revelation of God’s word shared today, and I trust that you are leaving this post with a valuable lesson on who to source income in the family and how to utilize that income. As you put to use what you have learned here, I am hopeful that God will bless your home immeasurably.    

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