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Wednesday, 27 January 2016

This Divorce Is Inevitable; My Wife Has Evil Spiritual Powers

First I really need to apologize for the temporary break in delivery of my post, it was not deliberate as I had promised to always have a word for you from God throughout the days of this year by the special grace of God. I had some other assignment I needed to round up, but by the special grace of God I will make it up to you. For as long as the Lord provides His word, it shall be delivered undiluted and in good time. I thank those who called to find out the reason for the break and I feel blessed to be used by God for you. I pray that your lives and homes will always remain blessed in Jesus name. 
Today's post is in response to a feedback I got from the last post I shared on the issue of divorce, I pray and hope that everyone who reads this will receive a touch from God and make a God accurate decision on the challenges of their marriage. The glory of the latter marriage will surpass the former in Jesus Name.   
Please ensure you share what you have learnt from this blog with a friend. Spread the word and save a home. It's a priceless gift at no cost to you but of great benefit to someone needing it. So here is the issue and the response.
   
Issue
I agree with a lot of points you made in your last blog post on the issue of divorce, but my own case is exceptional. My wife is something else as I don’t even know how to begin to describe her. First she is very wayward, infidelity and adultery are issues that don’t sound like sin to her as they have become her regular practice. In fact these things have become her way of life. I have pleaded with her several times to slow down from this fast paced ungodly life style but all my talks have fallen onto deaf ears. She has absolutely no respect for our marriage. I have prayed and talked and nothing has changed. But I became moreconcerned about her and her attitude when she started making treats at me and saying things like: when she is done with me I will be worse than a church rat as I have no idea of the power she possesses. This I now believe calls for a more serious action on my part, I’ll rather divorce than loose my life or things that I have worked hard to earn for a wife who is not worth the trouble.

Respond

Waow! I am sure you would probably be feeling overwhelmed now by your marital situation and I thank God for the grace He has given you to be able to hold on till this point. But I will tell you that even at this point getting a divorce is not a solution to the problem, if God cannot handle this matter for you he would call your home and you will be freed of the covenant you both have in marriage and He will provide for you another helper as a wife. Now if I would say that divorce is not a solution then what is? First I don’t know the power your wife possesses that gives her the courage to boast of it without shame, but I can tell you that you also don’t know the power you have as a child of God that makes you want to run out of your marriage as a result of mere treat. Your wife is making a boast of her powers because she is aware that you either are not a child of God enough to operate in the power of God, or that you don’t know the enormity of the power that is in Christ Jesus that has also been given to you as you gave your life to Jesus. And so because she knows you don’t have the power or that you don’t know that you have the power she can make her own boast. Colossians 2:10 says “And you are complete in Him (Jesus), who is head of all principality and power”; In Matthew 18:18 Jesus says “I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.” Isaiah 44:24-26 reads, “This is what the Lord says – your Redeemer, who formed you in the womb: I am the Lord, who has made all things, who alone stretched out the heavens, who spread out the earth by myself, who foils the signs of false prophets and makes fools of diviners, who overthrows the learning of the wise and turns it into nonsense, who carries out the words of his servants and fulfills the predictions of his messengers.” These are just very negligible fraction of scriptures in the Bible where God spoke of the power He has given to His children. If you are now convinced within you that you are complete in Jesus Christ who is head of all principality and power, how come the treat of your wife should ever matter to you? You are complete in Jesus who is head of all principality and power and based on my own understanding you, who is in Jesus is head of all principality and power. You are head over your wife as her husband as the Lord has ordained it, then you are complete in Jesus who is head over all principality and power and by so you possess a power that is head over whatever power she might think she has. This knowledge should awaken your spirit being to know that God has empowered you with everything you need to ensure the victory of that situation. In answer to the question I raised earlier what then is the answer to this problem if not divorce; and I will say prayers, prayers, prayers and lots of love. Genesis 25:21 says “Isaac prayed to the Lord on behalf of his wife, because she was barren. The Lord answered his prayer, and his wife Rebekah became pregnant.” If God heard and answered Isaac’s prayer for his wife then why will He not hear and answer your prayer of deliverance over your wife and whatever spirit/ power she has? Rebekah the Bible says was barren and her husband prayed for her. She had an issue and rather than Isaac divorcing her and condemning her as barren, he prayed for her and God answered. Your wife also has an issue, though it is different from that of Rebekah, still it is an issue, so pray for her and don’t get tired of praying till God hears and answers that prayer. The God that delivered Rebekah from the clutches of barrenness can and will deliver your wife from any and every evil spirit she is moving around with whether she likes it or not. Pray for her expecting God to answer and don’t give up on your wife. I will share a testimony that I heard at an 80thbirthday celebration of a man that I attended to close up this discussion. The wife of the celebrant who was really younger than her husband gave a testimony of how God used her husband to change her life. The age difference of the celebrant and his wife was about 30years and she married the man relatively young, she was in her early twenties when she got married to the man. She was just approaching adulthood and she was really out to have fun. She was what she herself described as wayward and not ready to settle to married life as she was still young. She would party and have fun. Her husband tried to talk to her and make her settle down and she would complain always that her husband was always nagging and not giving her room to enjoy her life. With patience and prayers and firmness her husband was able to prune her to shape. With her husband’s unrelenting effort she grew to be a responsible mother who has grown to love the Lord with all her heart. She testified that the lessons she didn’t learn under her parent’s watch she learnt under her husband’s watch. As at the time she gave the testimony they had been married for about 28years and she was able to testify that her husband brought out the best in her; qualities she never knew she possessed. I pray that will be your wife’s testimony too concerning how you have helped her bring a beauty out of the mess of her life in Jesus Name. I know it will not be easy and it was not easy for this couple too, there were lot of divorce treats, but they came out stronger and better. I pray that the Lord will uphold you as you work at earning this one soul which is your wife for Christ Jesus. 

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Thursday, 14 January 2016

Is it Possible For Them to Get Back Together?

Matthew 19:7-9
“Why then,” they said, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”
Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

1 Corinthian 7:10-11
To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A woman must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

Malachi 2:16
“I hate divorce,” says the Lord God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment,” says the Lord Almighty.

I bless the Lord for the gift of a new day and a new opportunity to share His word to many wonderful people who have been and will always be blessed by the truth of God’s words shared on this blog. May the Lord never cease to always bless your homes in Jesus Name.
We have been receiving insight from God through His word in the Bible to help us build a wonderful home and enjoy a peaceful and beautiful marital life. But I trust the Lord to help do more than that in the lives of many. I trust God to help us rebuild broken homes and reconcile broken marriages. And because I know and believe that there nothing is impossible for God to do, I know that this one longing of my heart will receive answers from God in Jesus Name.
Some days back I spoke to a friend’s sister who had been separated from her husband for well over six months. Initially it started as a fight that eventually led to a separation and hoping that with time these two will miss each other and find their way back into each other’s arms the people around them let things rest. But when I heard that after about seven months there seem to be no hope for reconciliation, I decided to call the wife who happens to be the one I know to find out exactly what the problem is.
She told me so many stories beginning with how she met her husband and how he deceived her into marrying him. But according to her that was a long gone issue, but the recurring problem between them that she could not cope with was the fact that her husband was a laid back person who was not ready to do much in terms earning income but would rather she does all the work while he keeps spending the money. He would not take care of the financial needs of the family and she had absolutely no idea of how much he earns as income and how he spends his money. She also complained of his low moral values and the fact that he sleeps with almost every woman he meets. His low life attitude is so bad that he sleeps with her staffs who work for her in her hair salon. So all these put together, forms the reason why she worked out of the marriage and was not ready to go back into it. In fact she was thanking God she was finally out of the bondage called marriage that she has found herself in.
So many people would probably conclude that she has every reason by human standard to take a walk from the pathetic man called husband that she married and begin to live a better quality life rather than slave for a man who does not appreciate her. But before we conclude so, it’s important to search the mind of God objectively on the matter and know the will of God for this woman and many other husbands or wives out there that are about to be EXed (divorced) for good reasons based on human standard.
For those with marital issues, whether you are already separated or divorced or about to be, I pray that the Lord will sow a seed of positive change in that situation and life will be restored in your marriage and the glory of the latter years of your marriage will surpass the former in Jesus Name.
So we search the mind of God and see what He tells us from His word. I started this blog post with some Bible passages revealing the mind of God on the issue of divorce, and from what we see God say about divorce or even separation, it’s a complete NO NO from God. Divorce was not in the mind of God and still not on His mind. “I hate divorce” says the Lord God of Israel. Jesus went on to tell us that divorce came into being as a result of the hardness of the heart of man. So if the heart of man was not hard but forgiving, divorce will never be in existence. So if I am not going to sound judgmental (which I am trying not to be), divorce is only for those whose hearts are hard.
For those who feel wronged by their spouses and are either divorced or about to be, forgiveness and reconciliatory moves does not make you a weakling, rather it shows the high level of reverence and love you have for God and it depicts the fact that you are a child of God. Matthew 5:43-45 reads, “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and unrighteous. If you consider your spouse as your enemy that you should divorce, the Lord Jesus says rather than hate your enemy, you should pray for them. So rather than hate your spouse so much that you want a divorce you should pray for him/her.
I always tell people when we get to have marriage talks that you cannot change your spouse by mere talking to them. Your complains, naggings, quarrels and fights cannot make that man or woman become what you want them to be. I do not mean that you cannot express yourself politely, but there is more to changing a man than complaining, nagging, fighting them or making quarrels. Consider approaching God in prayers on behalf of your spouse over that attitude or characteristics they possess that does not please you. Then follow up that prayer with good attitude and love, and for the wife, follow it up with submission and politeness. It is just a matter of time for you to start to see the changes in them that pleases you. For as long as the change you desire in your spouse is a Godly trait you can be sure that the Lord will make it happen even through you without a fight or quarrel.
If in the case that your spouse has committed adultery and is marital unfaithful to you, have you tried praying for such a spouse that the Lord who is able to make all things new, deliver him/her from the evils of fornication and adultery and make him/her a new person. Then find a place in your heart to forgive, rather than use the words of Jesus to fan the flames of the hardness of your heart which leads to a divorce. We have all sinned at one time in our marriages and we expect to be forgiven, now rather than be the one to be forgiven why not be the one to forgive.
Genesis 2:18 reads, “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him.’”As a wife you are God’s divine helper in the life of your husband. The helper provided by God even when he is misbehaving and missing the call of God on his life. You are the mercy of God for his life to help restore him back to God’s will for his life, yet this wife is the one calling for a divorce from the husband she has been assigned to help over issues that she has been assigned to help him overcome and win victory over. Wanting a divorce amounts to you as a wife telling God you cannot do the assignment which He has given you to do. With all of these as God’s plan for the man and his wife we can understand why God says “He hates divorce.” 
Now if you cannot carry out this assignment of being a helper to your husband successfully, how can you prove to God that if He gives you to another man to help you can carry out that assignment successfully. So God says through Paul that if you have to divorce as a result of the hardness of your heart then you should remain unmarried or be reconciled to your husband. 
Proverbs 19:14 reads, Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord. As a man, at the point of marrying your wife you had considered her a gift from God in your life, and you are not far from the truth because Solomon says a prudent wife is from the Lord. But when she began to show traits that you did not expect from the wife that God gave you did you bother to take her case back to God who gave her to you as a wife for Him to make the necessary adjustment in her life while you still continue to show her love as the Lord has instructed you to, or did you just throw her like a piece of rubbish out of your life and strolled to the law court for a certificate of divorce? Now again we can understand why God says “He hates divorce.” That piece of rubbish you just divorced or about to divorce is God’s favour for your life. Proverbs 18:22 says “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from God.” Can you prove to God and justify the fact that if He provides another favour for you in the form of a prudent wife you will not throw her out of your life again when she makes mistakes one too many times like you did the first?
Understand this very carefully when/if God sees that your husband or wife has gotten so way out of control that he/she cannot be tamed by God and that He does through you when you obey His rules for marriage, He will call him/her home and assign another helper to you as a wife or provide another head for you as a husband (Read 1 Samuel 25: the story of Abigail and Nabal). It is only through death which is from God that a marriage covenant can be broken not by you obtaining a divorce.     
In closing, I am sure you will not be surprised if I tell you that the advice I gave the young lady whose story I shared at the beginning was to go and pray for her husband until the Lord causes a change in his life. Her separation would not solve the problem and if she wants to please God, then she is not permitted to marry another man other than be reconciled to her husband. I pray by the special grace of God that testimonies will abound as a reason of this blog post and marriages that otherwise were dead will rise again to the glory of God alone in Jesus Name. 

Monday, 11 January 2016

The Responsibility of Raising Children, How is it shared Among Couples?

Genesis 18:18-19
Since Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him. For I have known him, in order that he may command his children and his household after him, that they keep the way of the Lord, to do righteousness and justice, that the Lord may bring to Abraham what He has spoken.

Ephesians 6:4
And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

Yeah it’s another beautiful day in God’s grace and goodness and for the gift of the breath of life that we have today, we bless God abundantly. Thanking Him who is our ever sure supply for the grace to share His word again today. I pray that lives and homes will be blessed in Jesus Name.
In looking at some very common avenues in which the devil can attempt to penetrate our marriage and steal our joy, we will be trusting God for a word on the issue of raising our children. Proverbs 22:6 says “Train a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn from it.” There are two things I am believing God to open up our hearts to in this blog post, and the first is: who holds the higher responsibility in training a child between the father and the mother, and secondly what direction should the training of our children take.
In the world today, the way and manner in which responsibilities are shared in the home is that the husband going out to work and earn income, while the wife stays home to care for and train the children. And so there are instances whereby the fathers do not get involved at all or have very minimal contribution in the training of the children, other than making available funds to meet their financial needs. So it is easy to blame the mother when things go wrong with the children because it is assumed that she is the one staying at home to train them.
With the new economic downturn that has seen the wife also having to hustle to make ends meet as it is almost impossible for the husband alone to financially provide for the family, we have the wives overburdened with the task of making money, yet caring for and training the children. And in cases where the wife cannot cope, she unburdens the caring for and training of the children to the housemaid. This has in turn created all sorts of child abuse and ill-mannered children that we have in the world today.
So it’s important to have a Biblical understanding of who owns what responsibility when it comes to training our children. I also want us to bear in mind that for every assignment given to man by God, He demands an account (Genesis 9:5).
From what God said concerning Abraham that he is expected to command his children and his entire household to keep the way of the Lord and to do righteousness and justice, and also the word of Paul to the fathers in Ephesians 6:4 which says "bring up his children in the training and admonition of the Lord," answers our two major questions that it’s the father who owns the primary responsibility to train his children and he is to train them in the way of the Lord and for this responsibility on his life, he will give account.
Contrary to the tradition that is in play in this generation, the Lord expects that the father/husband commands and instructs his children and even his household which includes his wife in the way of the Lord. But caring for the children is the responsibility of the mother/wife. From the qualities of a virtuous woman in Proverbs 31:10-31, we will understand that the wife/mother is burdened with the responsibility of caring for her children and entire household which includes the husbands, while the husband/father is holding the responsibility of issuing commands and training the children and the entire household in the way of the Lord. And in reality, the husband is the ideal and effect person to train the children as his instructions are seen to carry more weight.
But when it comes to the training of the children the mother also has a role to play. She is her husband's suitable helper, divinely provided by God to assist him in every area of his life and assignment that God has placed on his life and that includes the training of their children. So what I am understanding and sharing now is that the man holds the primary assignment to train the children in the way of the Lord while the wife is provided by God to assist him in this assignment.
With this very well understood, it should no longer be the trend that the mother will be solely held responsible for the bad behavior of the child while the father is exonerated of any fault. Rather both the father and mother should realize their lapses in training their children with the husband feeling more of the burden on the issue because he holds the responsibility to train his children.

In closing I will point out that mothers have more influence on their children and with this comes the need for them to lead by example. When the mother is implementing the commands and instructions of her husband in her life and the children are seeing her do that effectively, it becomes a step easier for her to enforce the father's instructions in the home. And most importantly is that the father as the head of the home leads by example also. Then the children will do as they do and not do just as they say. May God bless and replenish our homes and shine down on our children in Jesus Name. 

Thursday, 7 January 2016

Understanding Sex and Emotion In Marriage

1 Corinthians 7:3-5
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except for mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 

In today’s post I believe the Lord wants me to share on an interesting topic that a lot of people always want to hear about, and it is a very important and significant element of marriage. And this topic is on sex in marriage. I have noticed that sex in marriage is becoming a trending gist on social media and I have received quite a lot of voice and video messages on my phone that has dealt with the issue of sex. About three years ago when I first wrote a blog post on the topic of sex I got the most number of page-views from that post and then I realized that really people are eager to have this topic discussed.
But for this blog post today, I trust the Lord to help us understand and be able to deal with the relationship between our emotions, whether anger, hatred, love, joy, excitement, happiness and our sex life. I am tempted to believe that when either the wife or husband is not happy with his/her spouse, it is most likely that sex between them will be a non-issue. Also it will be difficult for a wife who is not happy with her husband to willing submit her body to him for sex and if she attempts to out of a sense of duty it will be most assuredly a miserable experience.I have heard a lot of women say that if they ever discover their husband is committing adultery then they can never allow such a man access to their bodies again.
I am also tempted to believe that most men don’t attach emotions to sex and so it’s not going to be a serious issue if the husband, though not happy with his wife but he still able to have sex with her (I might be wrong on this as I am not a man). But this cannot be generalized in the case of all men. So I am tempted to conclude that sex and emotions are closely knit together. And this explains why it is unhealthy for a man and his wife to have prolonged disputes as this will affect their sex life and since sex and nature are also intertwined then we have cases of either party going outside their marriage to obtain the sexual satisfaction that their body yearns for. This ultimately leads to great sin.
Now that I have been able to struggle through identifying the problem, I trust the Lord to help us through a solution. Since everything God made is beautiful, all of His ideas are unmatchable and they are there for us to enjoy as the Lord has declared this to us in Jeremiah 29:11, so how marriage is designed by God for us to enjoy and not endure, and also sex in marriage is God’s idea for the man and his wife to enjoy and feel a sense of warmth, love and oneness and not manage through the act.
So these are some of the things I will advise when you are faced with this kind of situation; when you are angry with your spouse and your spouse is showing you signs that he/she would love that you both make love, first try to understand that whatever is the cause of the issue that is making you angry or causing the hatred you feel only affects you and not your spouse and in that case you need to quickly deal with the issue within you and move on. Don’t bother to wait for a verbal apology; the interest shown by the longing for sex with you should be sign enough to you that your spouse is sorry.
Also you can do a quick internal prayer that the Lord would help you overcome whatever it is that bothering your mind and get in the right mood for a passionate love making with your husband. Don’t be embarrassed to pray about such, because God is not embarrassed answering you that request. And by the time you get in the right mood with your husband/wife every other issue bothering your mind fades away. And again I will say never allow a dispute to last longer than necessary, give it the shortest possible life span and free yourselves of the burden of anger and hatred that can possibly plague and injure your marriage.
It’s natural to have a mix of sex and emotion, but when the emotion begins to overpower the sex in the negative then you need to prayerfully make a conscious effort at reversing the trend. If sex with you souse is subject to you feeling happy and good, then ensure that you are always feeling happy and good so that your emotions does not affect your duty to your spouse as the Lord demands that you do not deprive each other. If as a wife you have come to the understanding that your husband’s mood determines his sex drive, please ensure at all cost that you make him happy, if possibly you should prayerfully do so. And if as a husband you have come to realize that showing love to your wife and pampering her helps her sex drive, please prayerfully try not to let the love lack.
Intentionally depriving your spouse of sex just to get at him/her for a wrong done is something that does not have God’s approval. The 1 Corinthians 7:5 says “Do not deprive each other except for mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer.” So prayer is the only excuse for a couple to abstain from sex and it should have mutually agreed by both and only for a time. Depriving each other of sex as a form of vengeance is a sin, since it does not have the consent of God. Forgive one another of any wrong done and move on with the good health of your marriage as a goal to be achieved by the two who has become one in flesh and spirit. God will be the judge of any wrong done and will make appropriate sentencing if and when necessary.  May the Lord bless our homes.     

Wednesday, 6 January 2016

Your Marriage And Money

Hello beautiful people of God, I trust that the Lord who is always faithful is keeping you safe under His divine watch to protect you and yours and make you flourish in the land of the living. My prayer is that there will always be a timely word from God for a life that needs it on a daily basis on this blog in Jesus Name. So I am trusting God that daily there will be something tangle and relevant from God through this blog everyday of this year for a life and marriage needing it. So I plead with you to always put me in your prayers for the spirit of fervency, consistency and diligent and to always expect to hear from God daily through this blog for a word to bless your life and marriage in Jesus Name.
There are a lot of things the devil can possibly use to destabilize your marriage and one that is most often used by him is money. That element called money has been the root cause of break-ups or break-downs of many marriages. And just like the stories shared in my previous post, we can see the extent to which money has caused grievous damage in promising lives and homes. It is true that money answers all things but the fact remains that not all monies answers all things because money gotten outside of God is also the root of all evil.
In today’s blog we will look at the relationship that exists between marriage and money. How income should be generated and expended. Who should be generating the money for the running of the home and what control does each spouse have over the family income. And I trust the Lord to help us have a clear understanding of His will for our marriages when it comes to the issue of money.  


1 Timothy 5:8
If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

2 Thessalonians 3:10
Foe even when we were with you, we gave you this rule; “If a man will not work, he shall not eat.”

Proverbs 31:13-19
She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls.
She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trade trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. 


The passages above are the basis of our discussion in this post. A lot of women are with the mindset that only the husband should provide for the home and even if they get to work, their income is theirs alone and not for family use. So to say that their husbands do not have any control or say over what they earn as income. Some other category of women believe that all their needs should be provided for by their husbands. And they make their husbands look so much like a failure if he is unable to meet up with the never ending requests of the wife not to mention the children.
And just like the stories shared in my previous post, we have some men who sit and do close to nothing in form of serious work just because they are rest assured that their wives are earning good income and so they don’t need to worry. This category of men live off their wives and they are just okay that way. They depend on their wives for money and if for any reason she is unable to meet up with their never ending demands she becomes a bad wife and in some cases they get violent and beat up the favour of God for their lives (their wives).
But from what the Bible is revealing to us in the passages above, both men and women who have this mindsets are wrong. The culture or tradition they have imbibed in their homes and marriages is totally faulty and not of God. 


Jeremiah 17:5-8
This is what the Lord says:
Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who depends on flesh for his strength and whose heart turns from the Lord. He will be like a bush in the wastelands; he will not see prosperity when it comes. He will dwell in the parched places of the desert, in a salt land where no-one lives.
But blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. He will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.   

God does not desire that a husband or a wife depends solely on the other spouse for a means of livelihood or sustenance. The Lord expects that each of them will engage in work in order to generate income. It is very right that God expects a man to take care of his relatives and especially his immediate family, but God also expects that the wife will engage in work also to generate income to provide for the family.
I always marvel and the foresight of the living God; in today’s generation we hear this common saying that every family needs a multiple stream of income in order to be financially stable, yet this had been the design of God right from the time He originated marriage. There is always a time down in the life and finances of everyone that God has created and God knowing this has provided a help for the man in his wife to absorb any shock of challenge whenever necessary and that includes those times when the husband is financially down. So when the husband and wife are both generating income for the family and with God as their anchor, there won’t be a time when there will be a severe financial crisis in their home and cases of husband beating up his wife as a result of lack of money will not arise.
Again and again the Lord has opened up our hearts to the importance of submission from a wife to her husband. Ephesians 5 says a wife should submit to the husband in everything and that includes the submission of money. Although I am totally against a man bullying money out of his wife, yet the Bible says to the wife SUBMIT. When I praying wife faithfully obeys her husband and commits the situation that she is in into the hands of God then she can be sure that when a husband forces money out of his wife and does not spend same in a judicious manner, that husband is answerable to God, and the wife can be sure that there is nothing she can do to her husband that can supersede what God will do to him in vengeance for the injustice that he has done to her. But you have to obey first and let God handle the rest. 
For the man who is not taking care of his wife like he should is dancing in the possible wrath of God. If you as a man expect that your wife uses her income to take care of the needs in the home while you spend your money not providing for your family but on frivolous activities, then you are toying with God's anger. 1 Peter 3:7 says "that your prayers may not be hindered."  
I have been blessed by the revelation of God’s word shared today, and I trust that you are leaving this post with a valuable lesson on who to source income in the family and how to utilize that income. As you put to use what you have learned here, I am hopeful that God will bless your home immeasurably.