Wednesday 5 June 2013

You Are His Suitable Helper

Genesis 2:18
The Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

Genesis 2:20b-22
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 

In so many ways these two passages have made a lot of impact to me as a person, and to my conviction as a wife. And if only through the revelation of these passages women will understand their assignment in the lives of their husbands and perform such effectively, then the devil is permanently defeated in our homes and marriages. As an illustration to better understand the usefulness of these two passages to women, I will share a true life story that happened to a wife just like you and I.

A young Christian lady was having a chat with her friend and their discussion was based on marriage issues. One of these friends was married while the other was not. The single friend was of the pinion that marriage was a misery and sometimes God was unfair on that matter. The married lady who was a born-again Christian argued otherwise even though she was having troubles with her marriage as she just discovered that her husband was cheating on her.
The single lady gave the an instance of a born-again Christian lady who served the Lord with all her heart and then got married only to discover that her husband was gay and would not have sex with her. She explained that the lady has prayed well before making the decision to marry this guy and so if God was to be fair, why would He allow His faithful young daughter to marry a gay.
For a brief moment the Christian married friend was lost for words. She quickly said a word of prayer and asked the Holy Spirit to give her a word for this friend of hers who thought so negatively about marriage to the point that it was beginning to affect even her relationship with God so she needed to be careful in speaking to her. Meanwhile she also had her marital struggles. This question came up in the middle of a sickening marital challenge that she had. Just a day before that she discovered that her husband was having extra-marital affairs and though she had been suspecting so, but the confirmation of it really got her off balance. So she had this huge issue to tackle for her friend while having a huge issue on her mind also.
But as mentioned earlier, she prayed one of the shortest and most quiet prayer anyone could possibly pray. It had to be fast because she needed to respond to the person staring her at the face. And just then the Lord spoke to her heart; He said "What is the wife to the husband?" Is she not a suitable help? Did He (the Lord) give the woman any specific area of the man's life where she is to help? A wife is a suitable helper to her husband and it means in every area of the husband's life where he needs help, the wife is to come in and help. If the man has no issues in his life that he is struggling with, the Lord will not make for him a suitable helper. 
Just as the Lord was dropping the words in her spirit, she spoke them to her friend. And she told her that this lady in question is in luck because she is discovering where the issue is in the life of her husband and where her role is required in his life. She is the God ordained helper for that gay husband of hers and so she needs to start praying, she needs to start trusting God on behalf of her husband to break the yoke and evil lust of homosexuality in his life and she should faithfully do so without rest until she sees result.  
Surprisingly, this divine revelation healed her heart-brokenness more than it answered her friend's question. It was with this revelation that the Lord opened her heart to the role she needed to play is helping her husband overcome adultery more than the hurt she was feeling over the fact that he was cheating on her. She realized the need to help him more than the pain of betrayal that had overwhelmed her initially and so she began to pray. Her husband didn't understand why the sudden calmness over the quarrels they had been dealing with on trust issues, but he was at least glad he was forgiven. But there and then through the revelation of the importance and necessity of the role of a wife as a helpmeet in her husband's life, this wife was able to stand in the gap and pray for her husband; that the Lord will forgive him of his sins and renew his life. She also prayed against every intruder that was attempting to destabilize the peace of her home. She prayed her heart out until she began to see results. With time her marriage was at peace and she praised God for it. Soon her husband became her best friend and she loved him even more.

From this true life story I hope we wives will be able to understand our assignment in the lives of our husbands. A woman is a suitable helper for her husband whether he is a believer or not as long as they are married. The helpmeet role of the wife is not restricted to financial issues, home keeping or raising children, but that in every area of a man's life where help is needed, the wife has been assigned by God to be a suitable helper fitting to help her husband. This is a God given assignment; it is a primary assignment for which she will give account to God who has assigned her to that role. A lot of times the woman needs to relegate her emotions and feelings to the bottom of her being in order to perform effectively this huge role that God has assigned her to do. May the Lord grant us grace to be the woman He has designed and called us to be.   

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1 comment:

  1. Thank you, your words are always an inspiration to me. I am single and been divorced. was going to stay single and just raise my son until God put it on my heart to remarry. I told Him I would but only someone He had chose and litterally knocked me over with. So I am waiting on God in all things. Praying and seeking His face in every direction. You give me a lot to think about for when that time comes. May God pour His blessings out upon you.

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